Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
Just when I thought that everyone my age is settling down, I hear another couple broke up.
It’s really difficult when two people outgrow each other or realize that they’re very different from each other that they do not want to pursue the same path any longer. It’s never easy whether you’re straight or gay. It’s just… painful.
It doesn’t matter either how long a couple have been together. A couple of months, a year or two, five years, ten years… it doesn’t matter. Even a few weeks of being with someone, it leaves an imprint in your memory.
Someone once told me that sex isn’t the most intimate thing two people can share. Imagine how it would be like to part from someone you’ve been intimate with for a long time — someone you’ve shared every bit, every moment of your life.
I was watching a movie the other day and the lead character said, “Relationships are hard work.” You know what? It is. Loving isn’t hard. Falling in love is easier. Loving, coupled with an intense feeling of falling in love, feels good so we give in to it just as easily. It gives us a high — a blissful high — who wouldn’t want to savor that? But loving without the “falling in love” part? That’s harder to keep.
My partner and I have been together for almost 10 years. I’m still very much in love with her. 🙂 We fight, yes. Even worse than we used to when we started going out. But I love her crazy. And you know what? My family loves her, too. (Even if they won’t say or admit it. Hahaha!)
It’s a long process, this relationship. We’re constantly changing, both of us, and we’re facing different challenges now. But yes, the old issues are still there. It’s not that easy to overcome some issues but I trust that eventually we’ll get through them.
I read somewhere that Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith have ruled out divorce from their relationship. I read too, that Courtney Cox-Arquette and David Arquette have the same idea, but they’ve included going to therapy occasionally to help them sort through their differences. Maybe they’ve got the right mindset. I don’t really know.
It’s just sad to hear about couples breaking up. I know we all have our reasons for breaking up or leaving someone. It doesn’t make it easier or logical or rational or whatever.
Break ups are endings.
But they can also be beginnings.
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